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2026-09-02
- Found out Medo was still not happy after Tuesday. He joined a Discord call with me and Yazan; his question was “what was the point of the conversation on Tuesday” — landed as loaded, and as if nothing I’d said had been heard. I was curt and not particularly nice. ~20 min, then he left
- Amir joined later that night; we filled him in
- Yazan was texting Medo on the side and relayed that he was spiraling: wants to leave the friend group, “better for everyone,” he’s the issue, and that I wanted to hurt him and did it intentionally whereas he didn’t want to hurt me
- We got on a WhatsApp call with him. Lots of “I can’t, I can’t.” I shifted into making sure he was okay — told him we want him there, got him to confirm he wants to be there
- Call ended heavy. Group feels fractured right now
2026-09-01
- 2h phone call on ~3h of sleep. Tense — roughly 1.5h of fighting/bickering, last 30 min felt like we’d made amends (turned out not to be the case, see above)
- ~10 min in I found out about Mum’s mammogram callback and had to stop and restart the call
2026-08-21
- (Date approximate — “last-to-last Friday”) Had been chatting with Yazan. Medo had been pushing Amir not to go to the Caribbean to see Harmony (sp?), a girl Amir’s interested in, and Amir seemed annoyed
- I took it on myself to call Medo and suggest he back off a little. He more or less said he didn’t want to talk about it — landed as rude, and set off a chain of bad sentiment that carried into the Sep 1 call
2026-06-15 – 2026-06-29
- Shipped Maple Arts, an iOS app — sent the TestFlight link to the group Jun 15, tagline “Where art blooms.” First one in the group to ship an app
- Kevin gave detailed feedback (the 3s splash animation felt long, suggested 2s) and said everything in the app felt intentionally well designed; Medo took it well
- Got a desk support contract, 3 months, announced Jun 18. Start date got pushed back a week and he was the last to find out; then all the managers were on vacation his first week
- Earlier in May he was dealing with a bad boss over an invoice/timesheet discrepancy at the previous role
- Also built a website in Jan 2026 for the guy working at Wafa’s house
2025-12-15
- Halima’s aunt passed away — he was with her family. Group sent condolences
2025-11-28 – 2025-12-01
- Group trip: Medo, Yazan, Kevin and Amir came to visit me. Weeks of fly-vs-drive deliberation beforehand (flights ~$1,200 for four vs an 8h drive), settled on a rental car
- Medo ran the logistics as usual — packing checklist (passport, car insurance, health insurance, CAA card), car pickup and drop-off choreography around Yara’s car
- Circulated a full trip expense breakdown afterwards and asked if he’d missed anything
2026-07-24 – 2026-07-25
- Medo and Halima in NYC Jul 24–26 (the trip from 2026-07-21 Medo NYC Hotel Recommendation) — never did confirm where they ended up staying, Harrison vs Exchange Place. Ask upfront next time, it drove most of the planning friction
- Fri 07-24: he called asking to meet up. Dinner at Chalong Southern Thai in Hell’s Kitchen, 9:30 PM, party of 3. They came from a slice at L’industrie in the West Village first. ~$90/head. Full write-up in 2026-07-24 Chalong Dinner with Medo and Halima
- Sat 07-25: messaged at noon from WTC, heading to Frankel’s Delicatessen & Appetizing in Greenpoint. Met up in the afternoon
- Dietary: originally asked for halal, then relaxed it to “just not primarily pork.” Treat as pork-avoidant rather than strictly halal unless he says otherwise
- Handled Southern Thai heat fine — adventurous with unfamiliar cuisines
- Plans loosely and communicates same-day; expect short notice on meetups
2026-07-21
- Medo messaged asking my opinion on a Booking.com listing (“The Harrison” in Harrison, NJ) for his NY trip Jul 24–26 with one other person
- Flagged that it’s not near enough to the city — PATH-dependent commute from Harrison is ~35–40 min to WTC
- Recommended hotels near Exchange Place instead (Hyatt House, Hyatt Regency — noted Regency is pricier but has NYC skyline views depending on room); sent him a Google Hotels comparison link and a transit-time comparison
- Session details in 2026-07-21 Medo NYC Hotel Recommendation
2026-05-12
- Medo picked me up, drove me to Amir’s place; the three of us went to MEC together, then Medo drove me home
- Continued yesterday’s discussion about Kevin’s situation with Léa / Gray (he/him/she/her). Medo was very turned off by Kevin’s predicament around being interested in Léa given their gender identity; said he was already negative on Kevin and this wasn’t helping
- Companion pass optimization: Medo’s working through a new 24k spend to unlock the companion pass
- Travel planning: trip to Saudi Arabia, balancing the timing against Halima’s master’s enrollment, working out a date that fits
2026-05-11
- Met up; went to Yaseen’s Shawarma, then grabbed tea from Tim Hortons
- First discussed Kevin’s situation with Léa / Gray and the he/him/she/her dynamic
2026-05-08
- Group hang at Karachi Pizza in Ridgeway Plaza after Yazan and Yara picked me up from the airport; Medo, Amir, and Kevin met us there
- Kevin walked in looking much skinnier than before, even skinnier than Amir
- Amir put away 10 slices of pizza
- Kevin first told the group about Léa; was heavily sleep-deprived, slightly aggressive and agitated, and clearly uneasy with the gender identity situation while telling us
- On the drive back, Yara told Yazan (Yazan relayed it to me afterwards) that Kevin “isn’t normal” and that she was disgusted when Kevin had said “he saw every part of her body” about Léa
2026-03-07
- 2 hour phone call, he was driving somewhere
- Medo checked in on me, asked about potential loneliness after I had mentioned looking up my ex and finding out she’s been dating someone for two years
- Asked why I looked it up - I initially said it wasn’t loneliness, but concluded it’s more about the anxiety of finding out something hurtful where the idea of it is worse than the actual occurrence
- Recognized this as a pattern tied to seeing others get older and the passage of time - a fear of not having people, not getting to say things I want, and not being able to live my life as a result
- Discussed his work situation - had a good chat on what’s helpful vs not helpful for him
- He reminded me he’s always doubting himself, which is why I said I don’t give him advice often since it would just confuse him when he already has a direction and both options look equivalently good
- Spoke about his wife Halima - she’s always stressed, working too hard, never having time to cook
- Medo’s been trying to cook more to set an example
- Worries about the impact on future kids
- Believes it stems from Halima’s mom being too strict - inferred from stories like making her take off makeup she put on at a wedding, her mom being the matriarch of the family, her dad not helping out much at home
2025-09-19
- Asked Medo to come pick me up and provided flight number as well as time but hadn’t realized the timing would be ambiguous because of the 14h time difference between Australia and Toronto
- Medo came the day before and waited half an hour and is coming again today
2025-09-14
- Dad having mental breakdown, called Medo to inform if he could be available the next day incase we need to call the police
- Dad was more stable in the morning but demanding milk, so Medo came over and gave him Milk as well as a bunch of indian snacks without accepting payment